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When someone you know lies to you it creates feelings of confusion, betrayal, and sadness. Those feelings can change to gut-wrenching sadness when it’s someone you love with all of your soul. It can stop you in your tracks, hinder your life goals, and make you literally sick.
These are all examples of how lying can affect another person. They all leave the one lied to wondering why? Why did someone I care about lie to me? Do they not trust me? Do they not love me as much as I thought?
Questions like these can plague the mind. The severity of how you allow the effects of lies to affect your life, happiness, and confidence can lead to depression. It can even become the reason some give up on life, but there is hope.
A great therapy is to focus on understanding. When you find yourself having questions play over and over in your mind, sometimes to the point of pure madness, just remember that each individual comes into your life with a purpose. Whether that individual remains a part of your life or not, your lessons are what holds the value. Often when you ask the right questions, strive to view the situation with a detached mindset, and practice a lot of patience with each other, you can build a relationship much stronger than the previous.
Understanding why people lie can help you start to get relief from the pain. The following are some of the main reasons why people lie.
Only two scenarios can be in your future with someone who has lied to you: the one where you continue a relationship and the one where you do not.
If you are choosing to cut off communication with the individual, here are some helpful tips:
Reflection: Ask yourself the following questions.
Journaling: Keep note of the following.
Meditation: A daily meditation practice will help keep you healthy and focused during this time.
During times of pain and emotional turmoil, keeping a clear head space is extremely difficult. Meditation is a key tool for you during any life challenges. It may be the most difficult task of your day to start, but by the end of the 15 minutes your thoughts will most likely be more positive. If it helps, ask a friend to be a meditation buddy. You don’t have to be together, just plan on sharing the daily experience with each other over some form of conversation.
If you are choosing to continue a relationship or communication with the other party, follow the instructions above but add these as well.
In the book Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg, PhD, he speaks on the five “A’s” of human needs.
Keep in mind the person who has lied to you is only searching for one or more of the A’s from you or has a fear of losing them. If you reflect upon yourself with truth, you may think of a time in your own life where you have done the same. Maybe or maybe not to the severity of the situation at hand, but remember we are all programmed differently.
If the person with whom you are facing this challenge with is willing to admit to and work toward improving, you have certainly made the right decision to give them another chance. This life is about growth and evolution, sharing this process with another is more than rewarding in the end.