I have made decisions to leave my job, move to another state, build a home and my spouse is going to be with me. We can’t turn back now but I feel fear and wonder if these decisions have been the right ones for us. I’m not sure how to feel strong or safe or right. I read your site and it states if it feels right do it and if not don’t. What happens when it’s too late to ‘don’t?’
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Deepak's Response:
To really determine if a decision is in your best interest, you need to settle down below the fear enough so that you can determine if your body feels comfortable and aligned with the proposed action or not. That’s what it means to evaluate your decisions through the innate intelligence of your body. So it’s possible that one can still feel some fear, doubt and uncertainty about a momentous choice and yet it is still the appropriate step of action for you to take. Indeed, it’s hard to imagine a scenario in which a couple quits their jobs, moves and builds a home all at the same time, where it wouldn’t scare them a bit. That is a lot of change all at once, and it’s normal to be a little nervous. But look at your underlying motives to making these changes. Are you doing it to run away from difficulties and unpleasantness, or are you do it to take advantage of opportunities for growth? If you sense that you are drawn to do this because this is the next natural stage of your evolution, then you can feel good about going ahead even through the fear and uncertainty. If you feel you are taking these measures as a desperate attempt to magically leave the difficulties of the past behind, then you will want to modify your plans in recognition of the fact that you don’t solve problems by running away, and that you will still need to address your existing problems in your new situation.
Love,
Deepak
