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The month of love and Valentine’s Day is upon us! As a matchmaker and dating and relationship coach, I find that many emotions surface in February for those seeking love. The questions surrounding love are plentiful: How and where do I find it? Once I do find it, how do I keep it alive and make it even stronger? Why do some people appear to have love effortlessly, while others struggle? What exactly is it about love that makes it so beautiful and sought after?
When we feel loved, we feel fully accepted by another. And when we are around people with love in their hearts, their full acceptance feels beautiful and attractive. Children and pets are also natural love magnets because their hearts are usually wide open and giving, and they easily accept us the way we are. People with love in their hearts shine from the inside out. They radiate their love out into the world and onto others, and are seen as open, honest, confident, and at ease with themselves. They don’t ask anything of us; they just embrace us right where we are. This in turn draws others to them. They are magnetic.
If having more love in your life is a priority for you, you can learn to become a magnet for love with these five simple steps.
As you generate love within for who you are, you radiate it outwards and attract it back in spades. All the vibrational energy you radiate creates the outcomes, the experiences, and the events of your life. When your vibration reflects your love and confidence and self-acceptance, you become a magnet for others operating at that same frequency.
When you talk about things you are passionate about, you light up. You wake up to who you really are. The more passion you feel for yourself and your life, the more passion others will feel for you. When you feel passionate about what you are doing, you radiate energy and enthusiasm. Others pick up on this, consciously or not, and are attracted to it. Passion is magnetic. It gives you confidence and energy and raises your vibration. Passionate people excite others. They tend to make great first impressions, and others take notice. When you’re talking about your passion or living it, you’ll find yourself attracting people with the same passions – and people will be attracted to your strong life force. Your passion may be the basis for a new relationship or will help strengthen an existing one.
Remember that the smallest acts of kindness can have the greatest impact. And when you offer your light, your capacity to love expands exponentially. There are hundreds of things you could say throughout the day to show appreciation for the people in your life. Even something small, like writing a quick note or making a phone call to say “I’m thinking about you” can make someone’s day. When you become a source of love and share it with your families, co-workers, friends, and communities, you become one with all the love that exists and it flows to you with power and grace. Take action and give of yourself but don't give to get in return. To truly become a magnet for love, share love without attachments and expectations.
Thank, bless, and release those who are no longer in your life, and be grateful for the lessons they have taught you. Relationships can be such an amazing vehicle for growth. As you grow from past relationships, embracing the myriad ways in which your life lessons have come, you raise your vibration and attract others of higher vibration into your life. Make a conscious choice to open your heart to love regardless of what has happened in your past. Gratefully accept the lessons each moment brings (letting go of those ideals not met). Decide today that fearlessly sharing love will be a priority for you.
Like any other skill, becoming a positive, optimistic person takes practice to develop. Positivity is a muscle and you must build it every day if you want to see any tangible results. Take it one moment at a time, one day at a time. Make a conscious choice to see everything through the lens of love. Over time, optimism will become a natural aspect of who you are, and when negativity creeps in at times, you will quickly be able to get back on track and in vibrational harmony with the goodness of the universe.
The point of life and love is to let your heart be affected. Strive to touch the hearts of others and leave an impact on their hearts. Let your soul shine! Be authentic. There is nobody else on this earth just like you. Step into your truth wholeheartedly and find and live your passion and purpose. The world needs more love, light, and laughter. The more love you feel in your heart, the more love you will experience in the world. Radiate love and shine on. It’s amazing what people do for love, and it’s even more amazing what loves does to people. As always, choose love!
Traci Porterfield is a human resources consultant at the Chopra Center as well as the founder and CEO of Love by Design, a personalized matchmaking and relationship coaching service. Traci has more than twenty years of experience in recruiting and coaching.